July 23rd, 2009

Why a blog?

That is a great question.

I’ve learned in my 40+ years that there is seldom a simple answer to any question. Things are rarely black and white. And I find that my reasons for wanting to start a blog aren’t easily distilled into a one or two word answer.

I had a couple of fairly strong reasons to start a blog about being part of a commuter couple. Part of my reason was actually altruistic. When I first became ½ of a commuter couple, I really couldn’t find too much support for people in my particular situation.

There seemed to be more resources or literature for couples who were either in a long distance relationship due to the military or who had met on line and began their relationships states apart.

Neither of those descriptions fit me. When I said “I do,” I had no idea that one day we’d be living apart. And when the decision to live in different states was made (more about that later) I didn’t know we’d still be apart two years later.

Now with 2+ years under my belt as a commuter couple I think I’ve gained some insight into what some of the challenges (and joys) of being in a commuter relationship are. I hope you’ll join me as I wax eloquently (hopefully) about the day to day things that can become a big deal when you and your partner/spouse/life mate/significant other (I’ll use all of these interchangeably) live apart.

My more selfish reason to start a blog was because I want to develop a regular writing routine. So no guarantee that I won’t take off on a tangent about whatever is driving me crazy that day, but hopefully the majority of the posts will be written through the lens of the commuter couple camera.

I have no idea where this blog will go, no more than I have any idea when my husband I will be reunited.

But you know what – life is too short to worry about the things we cannot control. Let’s just sit back and enjoy the ride!