August 5th, 2009

Mr. J is a sucker for time travel. Books, movies, TV shows, he loves them all.
I mentioned that the movie The Time Travelers Wife was opening August 14, 2009.

He was intrigued not having heard of the blockbuster book by Audrey Niffenegger.

I read the book when it came out in 2004/2005 but Mr. J claimed I didn’t tell him about it. Zipping over to Amazon.com to read him the “dust cover” synopsis of the book I was startled as I read Publishers Weekly’s review of the Audio book, praising the performer who “ably expresses the longing of the one always left behind, the frustrations of their unusual lifestyle, and above all, her overriding love for Henry”.

That simple line so aptly expresses how I feel about my commuter marriage.

As the person who is “left behind” there are times that the pain of our partings is heartbreakingly fresh. And no matter how many ways I’ve steeled for it, and made plans, as I do on each occasion, there is always a wave of melancholy that washes over me as the door closes behind my husband and I once again am living the single life.

I will now re-read Ms. Niffenegger’s tale of an unusual marriage with a fresh eye, and I suspect with an even renewed bit of empathy for Clare’s predicament. I’d love to hear your thoughts on the book, the movie and whether or not you think I’m now projecting so much that I could see “commuter marriage” in my bowl of corn flakes!