August 21st, 2009

Actually, they aren’t questions. They are statements phrased with just the hint of a question mark and a huge dose of sympathetic disbelief:
“I don’t know how you do it.”
“It must be hard.”
“That would be so lonely.”

Well truthfully, it isn’t what I signed up for. I mean, do you suppose that when I stood before a judge (because we didn’t have a church wedding) and I said, “I do” that I ever imagined I’d be living alone, sleeping single in my double bed (it’s really a queen, but it ruins the lyric) yet still married?

Uh. No need to wait for the Jeopardy music to count down: the answer is no. This was not my lifelong dream.

But if you think I’m going to stand around the water cooler and cry into my coffee about the path my hubby and I have chosen you’re very much mistaken.

Instead I’m going to blog about it. Why just share it with 25 of your closest office buddies when you can spread it all over the world in a heartbeat?

Now that we’ve established that I didn’t jump into the Commuter Couple thing super willingly, allow me to say that I’ve lived through worse things….but those are other stories for other times.

Obviously a commuter marriage or a long distance relationship isn’t for everyone. On the other hand I have a handful of friends who at one time or another were involved in LDRs. Some successfully. Others, not so much.

Over the next few weeks and months I hope to have some of my friends do some guest posts about their experience with being in a commuter relationship. I’m only one person. My story will be uniquely mine and Mr. J’s. Actually it is probably uniquely mine. I’m pretty sure Mr. J has a thing or two to say from his perspective of our journey.

Some of you I’ve already tapped (and you know who you are). Others I’m making the call to now: we’d love to hear your story. Pull up a chair, grab a cuppa, and tell us.

We’re all ears. The one thing I’m personally dying to hear is how you handled the “well meaning question.” With grace? Grinding teeth? A vodka tonic? Do tell.

Comments are love people!

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